It is only recently that I shared my thoughts with you on what it felt like welcoming your one year old. Truth be told, those feelings have changed as a results of the happenings within the year. My kid is now 2 years old and he has an 18 day old new born sister. This week, I took a break from my newborn and decided to spend time with my toddler. The fact that I realized how grown he was gave me all kinds of emotions. I just enjoyed watching how his tiny body was moving as he chased to after the ball and sadden too by the fact that a few years to come, everything would change, I would be substituted with his to be pals and his little adorable body would change into a muscular one.
Here is how the second year went and a bit of advice too:
I believe that we as new parents should learn to take a break as we also give our toddlers a break too. Feeling good at something can take time as it’s a process. Before going into your second year, do not be too hard on both yourself and your toddler too. It is a learning process.
Never compare your kid to someone else’s. Always appreciate your own.
Learn to choose your battles well in the second year. You won’t be going into tiny details anymore as it was when the kid was just a baby. You will follow your gut and spend time with those who have sage advice for you ignoring the rest.
Your relationships with your true friends will evolve and get better as the exhaustion that ignited the tough times in the first year has faded.
Eating out will feel like quite a hustle as you will be forced to balance between eating your meal and taking care of the baby.As a result one will not be able to enjoy the meal as expected since most of the attention will be on the child..
Your child’s sleep pattern will change, and so will your philosophy. It might be a week by week adjustment so you have to adjust yourself. It is advisable though to try having your kid nap and go to sleep at a certain time each day.
Other things can wait. Always be present for your kid. You can unwind and have time for yourself after the toddler has slept.
At some point you will experience the emergence of your child’s personality and a sparkle in them when they discover what they can do for themselves. Accept it all as you guide them.
Your kid’s temperament will change and pose a challenge. Give them guidance and teach them on boundaries as they need them to feel safe. Acknowledge the fact that they can’t effectively communicate what they really need thus you should always be there for them.
Expect questions on whether you want another kid. The answer is within you, as you will know how to answer that best.
You will enjoy when they start using words, adorably mispronouncing things that you won’t dare correct at all.
You will find your past self again as you get more rest than the first year. Although you won’t be totally free.
You are guaranteed of unsolicited hugs.
Good luck, mama. Do not think negatively of their new behaviors. Always remember that they still need you, need boundaries and guidance and love too. Soon, they will be grown and independent, and all the early years with sleepless nights will be gone and in the past. Do not rush this stage, and never push yourself hard. Remember you’ve got this!